About Ellen Gable Hrkach

Ellen and her husband, James, have been certified NFP teachers for the Couple to Couple League since 1984 and have worked since 1983 in marriage preparation and chastity education. Ellen's also an award-winning author and recently published her third novel, Stealing Jenny, which reached #1 on Amazon Kindle in Religious Drama. Her non-fiction book is entitled Come My Beloved: Inspiring Stories of Catholic Courtship. Ellen's first novel, Emily's Hope, is based on a true story and includes NFP themes. Her second novel, In Name Only,was awarded the Gold Medal in Religious Fiction at the 2010 IPPY Book Awards and has been an Amazon Kindle #1 Bestseller in Religious Drama. She writes frequently for CCL's Family Foundations magazine, a columnist for CatholicMom.com, a reviewer for CatholicFiction.net and she and her husband create the "Family Life" cartoons. She and her husband own a small Catholic publishing company called Full Quiver Publishing. Her blog is at http://ellengable.wordpress.com. She lives in Pakenham, Ontario Canada with her husband and sons. Contact her at: info@fullquiverpublishing.com

NFP Goes High Tech

A few weeks ago, we taught an NFP (Natural Family Planning) class. Earlier in the day, we looked over the notes. That evening, we logged onto the teaching website. We tested the audio and video. We uploaded the slides and videos to the whiteboard, then waited for class to begin and for the eight registered couples to log on and join the “virtual classroom.”

Welcome to NFP in the 21st century! We don’t have to leave our home to teach NFP and student couples can learn NFP in the comfort of their own homes. They can see and hear us on the audio and video. If students have questions, they use the chat function.

For us, it’s been the answer to a prayer. Three years ago, after teaching NFP for 24 years, we were frustrated at the lack of interest in couples wanting to learn NFP. We felt fortunate to be teaching one or two couples a year. We had this enthusiasm to share our knowledge of NFP with others and wished there were more interested couples.

In the past 27 years, we have traveled all over Ontario to teach NFP classes. The most recent was three years ago when three different couples all inquired about the possibility of learning the sympto-thermal method of NFP in the Greater Toronto area. For the first two classes, we agreed to meet at the halfway point (each of us traveling two and a half hours) and for the last class, James and I traveled down to Toronto to teach Class III. It was an expensive venture, but we didn’t want to miss the opportunity to teach NFP to enthusiastic and interested couples. However, I told James that I wish that we could teach NFP online.

I didn’t have to wait long for my wish to come true.

A few months later, we discovered that our NFP organization, the Couple to Couple League, was looking for teaching couples to pilot a new online NFP teaching course. We immediately said yes and have never looked back. Since then, we have taught more couples in the past two years than in the previous 15 years.

The obvious advantage of online NFP classes is convenience. Most of the couples we’ve taught enjoy the convenience of not having to leave their homes and get a babysitter, although a few couples have missed the fellowship with other student couples.

One obvious disadvantage is when the internet isn’t working properly. It’s also hard for us as NFP teachers to judge whether a particular student is grasping a certain point because we can’t see facial expressions. In a large group, it’s necessary to test the couples frequently to make sure they’re understanding. And…it’s not unusual at least once during each class for some sort of technical malfunction to happen.

For the most part, however, it’s been a joy to teach NFP to so many couples, couples who may not have been able to learn otherwise.

Natural Family Planning is safe, effective and morally acceptable. Learning NFP has never been easier or more convenient. Materials and course fee are required to take the class.

If you’re interested in registering for an upcoming virtual online course: http://register.ccli.org/virtual

If you have any questions, concerns or comments, please feel free to email us at info@fullquiverpublishing.com or leave a comment below.

Photo and text copyright 2012 Ellen Gable Hrkach

Healthy Habits for the New Year Include NFP

The beginning of a new year often prompts the making of resolutions regarding lifestyle. Some will decide to exercise more or to eat better.

Nowadays healthier lifestyle choices are encouraged: a diet rich in whole foods, fresh fruits and vegetables, low in saturated fat. Unhealthy habits are discouraged: poor diet, inactivity, smoking, excessive drinking.

An important part of a healthy lifestyle also includes making good choices regarding birth regulation.

Moral considerations aside, Natural Family Planning, or NFP, is very healthy. It is a highly effective method of birth regulation, and it also poses no physical side effects. In my experience, NFP fosters a greater understanding and appreciation of the couple’s combined natural gift of fertility. There are no pills or chemicals to harm a woman’s delicate system. There are no devices or operations for either man or woman.

Other methods, however, are not so health-inducing.

Each prescription for chemical contraception (Pill, patch, vaginal ring, injectables) includes an extensive insert outlining the numerous possible physical side effects: an increased risk of weight gain, mood swings, headaches, breast cancer, heart attack, stroke and blood clots. Vasectomy comes with an increased risk of prostate cancer and dementia. Women who undergo a tubal ligation have a higher risk of chronic pain and hysterectomy.

For those who are especially concerned with the health of the environment, chemical contraception is a likely culprit in contributing to the feminization of male fish. Although chemical contraception isn’t the only cause, the following link includes more detail on chemical contraception’s effect on fish:

http://pubs.acs.org/cen/coverstory/86/8608cover.html

A new year can be an opportune time to adopt healthier lifestyle choices. It’s also a great time to learn NFP.

My husband, James, and I are certified NFP teachers and we even teach NFP online. For more information on NFP, check out my previous column entitled, “Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About NFP, But Were Afraid to Ask” or email me at info(at)fullquiverpublishing.com.

Text Copyright 2012 Ellen Gable Hrkach
Photo purchased on iStock

A Catholic Alternative to “Trashy” Novels

I have always been an avid reader. Even now, I usually read two to three novels per week. Years ago, before my re-version, I devoured trashy romance novels like they were candy.

Like anyone, I love a good story, but I especially enjoy a compelling romance or suspense novel. As I grew in my faith, I no longer wanted to read fiction with explicit sex scenes. So I began seeking out Christian fiction. However, I yearned to read good, compelling fiction with Catholic themes.

Partly in response to this desire, I began writing my first novel, Emily’s Hope, in 2001. I’m a certified NFP teacher and I’ve debated the “contraception” issue with non-Catholics, liberal Catholics, ex-Catholics and non-practicing Catholics. So when I sat down to write my first novel, I knew that not only did I want to write a compelling story, I also wanted to include information on the Theology of the Body and NFP. I figured that if I was going to write a novel, I wanted to write one that had the potential of evangelizing.

Emily’s Hope is the story of “Emily” (loosely based on myself) and “Katharine,” my great-grandmother. In the seven years since it’s been published, I’ve received many letters from “fans.” One teenager approached me at a Catholic conference and said, “You know, Mrs. Hrkach, your book helped me to understand the Theology of the Body better than any textbook I’ve read.”

With my second novel, In Name Only, I wanted to write a Catholic historical romance that would be hard to put down, a romance that didn’t shy away from Catholic teachings on sex and marriage.

Amazingly, In Name Only won the Gold Medal for Religious Fiction in the 2010 IPPY Awards (the first Catholic novel to do so). It was in the top 100 of Religious Fiction and Christian Romance for six months and continues to sell extremely well on the Kindle. One reviewer on Amazon.com writes, “When I read In Name Only, I was floored. It was so good! I could not stop reading it! I read it in a weekend staying up until 2am on Sunday night/Monday morning to finish it even though I had work the next day… what really gripped me was how Ellen Gable took Theology of the Body (TOB) and turned it into a novel. TOB is near and dear to my heart. I loved how she incorporated the teachings of the Church and weaved them into such a complicated storyline…”

My third novel, Stealing Jenny, is a suspense thriller about the kidnapping of a pregnant woman. The husband and wife protagonists are open to life, NFP-using, devout (yet imperfect) Catholics. One of the main characters is not religious. Another character is a born again Christian. I purposefully created Stealing Jenny so that the teaching was more subtle. And, of course, I wanted to write a book that was hard to put down. Therese Heckenkamp of Traditional Catholic Novels, said “When I had to put this book down, I literally could not wait to pick it up again…Stealing Jenny is a smoothly written, chilling tale of gripping suspense. There are terrifying moments and heart-wrenching moments. Catholic faith and hope are tested. Above all, the sacredness and privilege of precious new life is made indisputably evident.”

A few weeks ago, Stealing Jenny hit #1 in Drama/Fiction/Religious on Amazon Kindle and has remained in the top ten for the past three weeks.

A warning: my novels, although not explicit, do deal with mature themes and are appropriate for teens and older.

All my books are available on Amazon.com in print or on Kindle.

Like many of the Amazing Catechists columnists, I’m giving away free books: one copy of each of my novels in print and Kindle editions, as well as both editions of my non-fiction book, Come My Beloved (that’s eight books in total). Enter to win by leaving a comment at ANY OF OUR COLUMNS, ANY TIME from NOW until December 15th!

Of course, my novels are not the only Catholic alternatives to secular “trashy” novels. Do you have a favorite contemporary Catholic novel? Please feel free to comment below.

Photo and Text Copyright 2011 Ellen Gable Hrkach

Advent Humor

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Favorite Advent Books

With Advent just around the corner, I’d like to share a few of my favorite Advent books:

Welcome Baby Jesus by Sarah Reinhard

Sarah Reinhard’s new book, Welcome Baby Jesus: Advent and Christmas Reflections for Families, takes a refreshing, unique approach to Advent.

There are many children’s Advent/Christmas books out there, but this delightful book includes activities and reflections for the entire family.

From the author: “Advent is a season that’s almost forgotten by the secular world. You’ll find Advent calendars, to be sure, but they are really an adornment for the “Christmas season,” which begins sometime after Halloween and ends on Christmas Day.”

Each section encompasses three different activities: Think, Pray and Act. Each Sunday has its own theme. The First Sunday of Advent and the week following is “Get Ready.” The Second Sunday and following week is “Repent.” The Third Sunday’s theme is “Love,” and the fourth Sunday, “Anticipate.” The Christmas season has its own theme:” Rejoice.” There are also stories and activities for the Feast of the Epiphany.

What sets this apart from other Advent preparation books is that it has reflections and activities for the entire family (parents included) so that both parent and child can prepare for the celebration of Christ’s birth.

Sarah Reinhard’s beautifully-designed book is an ideal gift for those families who wish to embrace the true meaning of Christmas and to grow closer to Christ. I highly recommend this wonderful book to everyone!

I also reviewed Joy to the World by Kathleen Basi last year on Amazing Catechists. Great book for the entire family!

My all-time favorite Advent book is called “Donkey Bells” by Catherine Doherty, foundress of Madonna House. This gem of a book is filled with stories, traditions, meditations and customs. I highly recommend it!

Do you have a favorite Advent book? Feel free to comment…

Generous Faith: Stories to Inspire Abundant Living, by Sister Bridget Haase, OSU

Published by Paraclete Press

Review by Ellen Gable Hrkach

Generous Faith: Stories to Inspire Abundant Living by Sr. Bridget Haase is a wonderful book filled with touching stories, spiritual reflections and lessons in faith. This beautiful little book illustrates that our life is an abundant life, a gift from God. As Sr. Bridget says, “All we need to do is cultivate this awareness through three basic practices: Living in the Moment; Trusting in Divine Care and Experiencing God’s Presence.” Each section or practice includes stories and reflections pertinent each practice.

Sr. Bridget writes: “In these stories we have met men, women and children living across cultural borders and close to home. We have sat at the ocean with a dying shell seeker, held a Gypsy child in our arms, and laughed over bus tickets and letters. We have experienced the power of desert baked tears of compassion of a son’s undying love for his father.” We meet these unique images of God throughout the book: Bird, Wynn, Buster, Rita, Aisha and many others.

I enjoyed reading about Sr. Bridget’s family and the interesting people she has met through the years. The stories are engaging and kept my interest throughout the entire book. I especially appreciated the spiritual reflections and lessons in faith and have begun to implement them in my own life.

This is a beautifully written book and a delightful read filled with poignant stories and reflections. It is a book I won’t soon forget and one that I can wholeheartedly recommend.

Copyright 2011 Ellen Gable Hrkach

Bullseye Marriage, by Sara and Francis Fontana

Review by Ellen Gable Hrkach

“Marriages work when you work on the marriage” and  “Everyone wins when a marriage succeeds” are two quotes which set the theme for this Catholic marriage enrichment book.

When trying to decide what title and focus to give to their book, they write, “It was the word ‘aim’ that moved us to focus on the analogy of the Bullseye. When we discuss our marriage and what we are aiming at we always conclude that what we want is a great relationship. There are many tools, books, and experiences that assist us in getting where we want to go, but to be effective we need to keep in mind what we are shooting for in our marriage. The archery analogy began to form in our minds.”

Chapter Titles include: What’s Your Bullseye? What’s Your Experience? Are you Right-Handed or Left-Handed? Men and Women Shoot Differently? What Happens When you Get Tired? Tips and Tools for Target Practice; Those Who Benefit from Target Practice and Resources.

Throughout the book, the authors take turns with the narrative, sharing parts of their story and their marriage.

“We discovered that marriage was more like showing up at an archery range every day, getting the target in sight, picking up the bow and arrow and shooting. There are days when we hit the Bullseye. There are other days when don’t but we at least hit the target. Some days we totally miss the target. Then there are those times when we are too tired to even pick up the bow and arrow and try…”

Included are quotes from Scripture, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, movies, books, authors, philosophers, songs and even a few quotes from their relatives. At the end of the book, each of the Fontana children (as well as their daughter-in-law) share a bit about how they have benefitted from their parents’ “Bulls Eye Marriage.”

Helpful exercises include sensory brainstorming and masterpiece time line activity.

Overall, I enjoyed reading this book, and I can envision it being used at marriage preparation classes or marriage retreats. As well, I would recommend it to anyone seeking to improve their marriage.

Copyright 2011 Ellen Gable Hrkach

The Rosary Workout, by Peggy Bowes


Review by Ellen Gable Hrkach

Have you ever wanted to know more about the rosary AND get in better shape at the same time?
If so, “The Rosary Workout” by Peggy Bowes is the ideal book for you to shed excess pounds and be edified spiritually as well.

For the past five years, I have almost always recited a rosary (or part of it) while walking on my treadmill every day. So I was thrilled to hear there is a book which combines physical activity with spiritual well-being. The Rosary Workout can be used by anyone: those who have never exercised, those who occasionally exercise, as well as the seasoned athlete.

This is a book which should be on everyone’s shelves as a great resource not only for learning about the Rosary, but also for educating about better health.  It is filled with helpful information and references.

In Part 1, the author gives an overview of the Holy Rosary including the History and Devotion to the Rosary.  Part II includes beautiful reflections on Mary as our Advocate and Teacher.  Part III lists the many benefits of regular exercise as well as exercise fundamentals.  Part IV lists the Prerequisites for beginning the Rosary Workout and includes sub topics such as proper time and season, discipline, setbacks and solutions, keeping track of the rosary prayers while exercising and role models.  The author advocates examination of one’s body AND soul before beginning any exercise routine.  This is such an important part of the book because many secular health enthusiasts only focus on the body.  Part V includes the different level workouts.

I highly recommend The Rosary Workout as a book which can benefit everyone both physically and spiritually!

Copyright 2011 Ellen Gable Hrkach

Three Cups, by Mark St. Germain


Illustrated by April Willy

Review by Ellen Gable Hrkach

Three Cups is a delightful children’s book which “teaches children from an early age the rewards of practicing a timeless, unique and effective method of personal financial management and charity.”

On his fifth birthday, the main character receives a present which his parents promise will “take him on adventures.” When he opens the package, he finds three cups from the cupboard.  Disappointed, he says, “Is this my present?”  His mother tells him to open the envelope.  His father then shares with him that they are going to start giving him an allowance.  Each week they will help him figure out how much will go into the first cup for savings, the second cup for spending and the third cup for charity.

Weeks later, he realizes that his cups are becoming full.  His parents take him to the local bank where he learns about interest and deposits.  Soon, he finds that he’s able to buy a baseball glove with the money in his spending cup. His father reminds him that he has more money in his charity cup.  Remembering that his school is collecting food for needy families, he takes his charity cup money and buys eight cans of soup for the needy families.

Asked which cup is his favorite, the boy can’t decide.  As the youngster grows older, he eventually gets a job, continues to put money in each of the three cups.  By the time he’s in high school, he has spending money, is able to help people through his charity cup and with the money in his savings cup/account, he is able to attend college.

The book ends with the boy (now a married father) giving his three cups to his five-year-old son, asking him “Are you ready for an adventure?”

In this difficult economy, I highly recommend this beautifully illustrated, delightful and educational book which can give parents and children a unique, interesting and reliable way to handle their money.  A Parents’ Guide is included at the back of the book.

Copyright 2011 Ellen Gable Hrkach

Joy to the World, by Kathleen Basi

Published 2010  by Liguori Publications

Reviewed by Ellen Gable Hrkach

In the first few pages of Joy to the World, author Kathleen Basi writes, “In this atmosphere filled with distractions, the idea of Advent as a season in its own right has been overwhelmed.”  This is a wonderful and informative Advent preparation book.

Back in the 1960′s when I was a small child in New Jersey, it was unheard of for anyone to even consider putting up Christmas lights before Thanksgiving.  My parents decorated the tree when my siblings and I went to bed on Christmas Eve and the tree stayed up until the Feast of the Epiphany.

Our society has such an impatience for the arrival of Christmas that many stores and families begin celebrating in mid-November.  By the time Christmas actually arrives, they are tired of celebrating and the tree and decorations are often taken down the day after Christmas. Kathleen Basi suggests that we need to “reclaim Advent” and use it as a time of preparation for Christmas as Advent was meant to do:  “…that season of holy hush, of waiting, of light and anticipation, that season that helps make Christmas so special…”

The first chapter is entitled “The Case for Advent.” Basi contends that Advent gives us a chance to meditate on Hope, Expectation, Preparation and Light.

In the second chapter, “The Advent Reclamation Project,” she suggests that there are three parts to the Advent Reclamation: morning ritual (Advent calendar); evening with an Advent wreath and Jesse tree and the “Good deeds manger” for any time.  The motto for Advent should be: “Be ready; be present; be waiting.”

The next three chapters explain how to implement these three areas: including one of the four areas of activity each day in the Advent calendar: service; spiritual growth; homebody; pure fun. She also gives a brief explanation and description of the Advent Calendar, Jesse Tree and “Good deeds manger.”

I love the idea of a Good Deeds Manger.  Basi suggests that a family obtains a box and some straw, chopped paper or Easter grass.  When a good deed or something kind is done by the children, straw is added. When something mean is done, it is taken away.  The idea is to have lots of straw for the baby Jesus.

In the final chapters and appendix, Basi includes other possibilities for Advent preparation: fasting, daily mini retreats and weekday Mass.  The appendix also contains information on the Feast days of December saints, as well as scripture readings and symbols for the Jesse Tree.

Each chapter has some form of meditation for children, either a scripture reflection or another age-appropriate reflection.

Basi admits that “none of the ideas in this book are new…what is new is the way we combine the traditions into a single month long liturgy of preparation.”

While it’s important to begin these traditions in early childhood, it’s never too late to implement many of the activities Basi suggests.

I highly recommend this wonderful book which is ideal for preparing both children and adults during Advent.

Copyright 2010 Ellen Gable Hrkach